3 Reasons Why That Relationship Is Not Working, Despite Loving Each Other
Love is good, but does not guarantee a successful relationship. Today, many people claim to be in love and yet hurt each other.
If love is all you need for that relationship, why does people who profess love, and display so much love to each other, even show the world how much they love themselves still end up breaking up, filing for divorce and cheating on each other?
As powerful as love is, it does not guarantee total success in a relationship. There are other factors that must be in place if that relationship must last forever.
I once came in contact with two friends who said they love each other and as a result want to get married. I was very happy for them. Three years later, I met one of them in a conference and asked her about the friend whether they are still together? She said No. I asked her why? She voiced out things that one should not say to a lover. I sat her down and started telling her how love alone does not guarantee success in a relationship.
Here, I will be sharing with you the 3 reasons I gave her why that relationship is not working despite loving each other.
Immaturity: The reason for high rate of break-ups and divorce in relationships today is not absence of love rather immaturity.
Love is far beyond mere words. An immature person cannot survive the storms that come from every relationship. This is the reason why we see men who beat their lovers, and ladies who do not think before they talk.
Maturity helps you to know that you don't lay hands or hurt who you claim to love. It helps you to understand that both of you come from different backgrounds and need to adjust until you understand each other.
Maturity in a relationship is what helps you to understand and help each other in your weaknesses.
I always tell ladies, instead of looking for just a rich and handsome guy, desire for a mature man. One who despite your flaws will correct you and still love you. Immaturity is what will make a man to be keeping malice with the wife or fiancee, and before you know it, it graduates to having an extra-marital affair with another person, divorce or break up.
Likewise men, look for a mature lady who will contribute positively and be there with you even in hard times, not just a pretty lady who will leave you because of a slight challenge.
Selfishness: The me, myself and I syndrome. This is the reason why so many relationships are not working. They are only happy and in love because everything is working the way they want it. Now, the question is, what if things change will they still be in love?
Your partner is doing everything to please you and keep you happy in that relationship, what of when he's tired can you take up the crown and sacrifice for him also?
Selfishness has buried so many relationships which appeared to be sweet. Be careful of a selfish partner. Every relationship that must work, needs both partners to pay the required price.
Selfishness in any relationship is the reason why a man or a woman will prefer divorce or breakup instead of saying "I am sorry".
Insincerity: In our world today, so many relationships are built on lies. They pretend to be in love just because of the pleasure they are getting from their partner even when they are in love with another person.
Avoid forcing yourself to be loved by people. They may pretend to love you just to make you happy, but the love won't last because their heart is somewhere else and was never for you.
I know of a lady who dated a guy for 12years. The guy got married to another lady and she was not aware. When she finally got to know, the guy told her that they have to move on with their lives, that some relationships can never end in marriage🤔.
The desire for sex and greed for money is the reason why many claim to be in love, and when they are tired or finds someone better they breakup and move on with the other party.
Make sure you checkmate your partner to know whether he/she is sincere.
Every successful relationship you see today, paid the required price.
